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Our minds are like a wild garden, full of thoughts and feelings, anxieties and distractions. I call this white noise. The white noise appears to come from nowhere and has a life of its own. We feel it just happens to us, that we have no control.

If I allow my suburban garden to go rampant, it becomes a jungle. The structure, form and pathways are lost. Alternatively when I choose to cultivate the plants I love, I fertilise them and make space by regularly clearing out the weeds. This requires discrimination, time and consistent effort.

The beauty and peace of such a garden is worth it.

So it is with my mind.

White noise causes suffering.  It causes negative thinking and pollutes all aspects of our lives.

White noise has been coming from the White house recently and taken centre stage in political life.

In American politics, Twitter has become a form of presidential communications. We see small storms forming regularly. There is no space between thought and Tweet, then no space between Tweet and reactivity. Everyone is subject to the ranting of over-blown egos. Underdeveloped consciousness is running riot.

This is a recipe for social, economic and political volatility. Can you feel it?

Twenty years ago I lived with what I perceived to be a normal level of background anxiety, stress and fear. It seemed to have always been there and I was often tired, drained and sick. I developed an unconscious habit of having the radio on as a distraction.

Then I noticed a series of meditation classes and went along out of curiosity. I enjoyed the meditation and found it comforting. It wasn’t until later I discovered it had a subtle and profound effect on me.

After the meditation I went home to prepare dinner. My family were surprised to find me preparing the evening meal in silence. They wanted to know why I didn’t have the radio on. Interestingly I wasn’t aware of this change of behaviour, as I simply felt calm and full inside. I didn’t need the distraction of my white noise.

I have since found meditation clears the debris, confusion and stresses of my white noise. I now enjoy calmness and clarity as my primary state. Yes, I still experience disappointments, sadness and anger in daily life, but they dissipate relatively quickly these days. Life happens and I feel the ebb and flow of what is present. My energy and health remain strong and I am far more productive than I was in my previous state. I found a solution to a problem I didn’t know I had.

I am concerned that white noise ends up diagnosed as anxiety or depression, neither of which may be cured by traditional medicine. What would have happened if my GP prescribed medication rather than me finding meditation? I believe diagnosis and medication would have fed the white noise, not quietened it. I believe I would have lost more personal power.

Instead, I have achieved a new state of calmness. I notice thoughts and feelings. Now I discriminate on where to focus. I’m putting aside negative thinking, fears and doubts and mostly stay in the present. This is ongoing and creates cumulative wellbeing.

From a neurological perspective, I created new neural pathways and let old ones die. My brain is rewiring as I cultivate health, clarity, vigour and optimism. This is a healthier place from which to drive my life and continues to be a work in progress.

I now assist people in resolving systemic and personal, relational and emotional issues and trauma. I also work with blocks and sabotage patterns to abundance. I know this provides a base from which to cultivate a healthy mind.  This important work has to be done before we can clear the white noise.

For those who do not need psychotherapy as a starting point, I invite you to take back your mind and direct it as you wish it to be. If you no longer want worry and anxiety to be your primary mind state, find something like meditation or Tai Chi to calm you down. Focus on what you find nurturing, and notice the change. Cultivate a garden you are happy to occupy and continue to take out weeds as they appear. Soon you will notice the difference as you create a healthier reality.

Enjoy it.

I visualise a world where it is reasonable for politicians to pause in the moment and take more time (days even) for consideration. Everyone has a chance to gather their thoughts and make comments and decisions for the greater good. The gravity of responsibility and consequence weighs heavily in a background of ethics and morality and in service to humanity. High emotions and reactivity are not reliable tools for navigating our everyday life.

Imagine a world where everybody, politicians and ordinary people, willingly engage in daily practices to sustain their mental and physical health, no longer hostage to white noise. What a beautiful garden we would create together.

This is the basis of the work I do as an author, psychotherapy innovator and trainer. These ideas are presented in my book Be Rich AND Spiritual and my therapeutic work is presented in Rapid Core Healing available from Amazon.

See my a free webinar HERE

Yildiz’s Amazon Author page HERE

Julie

Love truly is the basis of this wonderful process. Family Constellations was an intense experience and it was a revelation watching, and being part of, the constellations of others.

Julie

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The sessions with Yildiz have been profound and yet so gentle

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Pat Quinn

I am now 75 and until four years ago I struggled with excessive weight all my life.  I was always on a diet, I would lose weight then put it on again.  I decided to participate in a Family Constellation Workshop focusing on my life long issue of weight gain.   That workshop was a few years ago and I am pleased to say that I have taken off 41 kilograms and maintained that loss up till now.  All pain in my body has gone, I have lots of energy and at 75, feel like I am 50.   I believe that the constellation work was a great support in that process.

Pat Quinn

John

‘Being over looked for promotion had become a pattern that I was finding really frustrating. It was fascinating to discover how this pattern was a repeat of my situation in my family. I am now feeling so much more confident and am looking at my options in a different way. Many thanks.’

John

Tom

There has always been something niggling at me deep inside, but I could never get to it. I can’t believe how free I am now. A great relief.

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Mandy

Yildiz is a grounded and skilled facilitator guiding the Constellations with wisdom, sensitivity and clear boundaries creating a sense of safety that enables deep processing to unfold. I found it to be a profound experience touching into deep & lifelong soul pain.

Mandy
Psychologist

Denise

I had a pattern of destroying all close relationships. With Yildiz’s unique way of working I feel much more at peace and have entered a new relationship and am enjoying the closeness. This is a ne experience for me but I don’t have that needs to run away any more. I am deeply grateful.

Denise

Jackie

I am both gob smacked by the power of Family Constellations and at the same time jumping with inner joy. As I left our session I drove down the road realising my eyes had changed and with that my view on life is and will continue to also change. So many things about life are starting to make much more sense on all levels, it’s like a missing link. Many thanks

Jackie

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David

I had a history of trauma in my life and there has been a lot of trauma in my family too. It wasn’t until I came across Yildiz that I found out that this was something that didn’t have to continue. True to her word I am now feeling so much more at peace with myself and my past. A great gift.

David