Self-worth is a measure we put on ourselves that enables us to aspire to its perceived expectations.

I have found that our sense or worth, that may also be called self-esteem, is the primary motivator to the level of success we inwardly allow ourselves to achieve. I explore this in more detail in my book Be Rich AND Spiritual Details. 

This becomes set within, on our entry into life as a new baby or young child through our systemic patterning, or through pivotal experiences at any stage of life. Often the pattern has come through ancestrally and also through lived experience. These experiences that informed us of our perceived value, such as special, loved and caressed as the highest, to a sense of reasonably OK, to worthless and not seen or heard.

Whatever your pivotal experiences are, becomes the measure you put on yourself on all levels of life. What you allow yourself to achieve subconsciously.

In the following cases I have changed names and identities to maintain privacy and discretion

Jules is a middle aged woman who is well educated and working in a professional role who is attractive, intelligent and warm, but has a sense of stress about her. She came about her anxiety and a pattern that repeatedly occurs around injustice in being bullied and side-lined in her career. She said she wanted to break the pattern. She had already done a lot of coaching and psychotherapies previously and many personal development forums and was frustrated that the pattern continued, even though she had changed jobs several times to make a fresh start.

In working with her feeling of anxiety I used Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) psychotherapy. This contains a series of compatible processes streamlined for safely and gently the cause of her anxiety. This takes place through neural pathways with EMI Body sensing to the cause of her symptoms that are repressed in her subconscious mind to the historic situation. It was in her school class room when her friend had copied her work and Jules was accused of being the one to steal work from her friend. This took place in full view of the class and was shocking and humiliating and had left her unable to speak and numb. Jules was facilitated through a healing pathway in EMI that operates through the Amygdala, with me as the facilitator collaborating and guiding and guiding her throughout; to make sure she was safe and protected. The experience for her is experiential in inwardly utilising her visual, audio and connection with her body kinaesthetically to feel, express and offload. So as to complete her inner story in a better way. This allowed her to express her shock, anger, sadness and shame at being accused of something she didn’t do, to those concerned. This is an EMI healing pathway that is guided to complete her historically arrested ‘fight and flight’ response that was trapped in her nervous system, affecting perception, and automatic body, mind, energy and responses.

The healing pathway includes an Emotional Mind Integration process.  All within a sixty minute session on average.

The problem with a repressed disturbance such as this, which I know are very common to us all, is that unprocessed it is prone to recreate such patterns or injustices in her life subconsciously and inadvertently. In being able to safely and inwardly express her trapped emotions and experience the justice that she had so longed for, she was able to regain her dignity, autonomy and set up more capable and confident Emotional Mind states to guide her in adult life in the present.

On completion she said she felt empowered as she beamed at me with a new energy of healthy pride. I saw her for two sixty minute sessions and two years later she is enjoying her professional role and feels she has gained a viable place in her career and is able to stand up for herself so much more effectively.

Jack is a middle aged man who is shy and holds an energy of sadness. He had been diagnosed with depression in his late teens and had been scrolling the internet and was interested in the ideas coming though about neuroscience and epigenetics and curious about findings that show, that patterns may be inherited and the brain can rewire and recover.

He had been told by his GP and psychologist he would be depressed for life and had to stay on medication and learn how to manage his symptoms through CBT and mindfulness practice.

He had been given new hope by what he read about neuroscience.

In talking with him he told me his mother had also been depressed and his grandfather before her. He said that he had always been aware of his deep sadness even though in reality he had little to be sad about in his life. I worked with him with Rapid Core Healing. A combination of Emotional Mind Integration for personal healing and empowerment and Family constellations to assist him in releasing the enmeshed ties that bound him in his family system, to assist him in reconnecting with his system in a healthier way.
I saw him for three sessions of around sixty minutes each and he left feeling lighter and more at ease with a sparkle in his eye about the new prospect of discovering who he is, beyond his former depressive state. He had a sense of adventure and hope about him. He is doing well several years later. Going through the normal ups and downs of life, but with more resilience.

Rapid Core Healing is a new psychotherapy. Composed of Emotional Mind Integration, Family Constellations and a final Rapid Core Healing Certificate in combining both into one streamlined process. Embedded in each training certificate are Practical Trauma Informed Treatments for Personal and Generational trauma recovery, that have arisen out of Rapid Core Healing.

I am currently taking part in a clinical trial to explore “What difference one session of Family Constellations can make.”

The trial is going well and I look forward to be able to let you know of the findings on its publication in 2026. I know that in working with new psychotherapies, good quality qualitative and quantitative data from well-founded and conducted research is necessary in provide valid statistics for the mental health, mental illness counselling and psychotherapy forums and also the public.

I offer online sessions, Certificate trainings and books.

• The next Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) Certification course is taking place online on 05 January-02 March 2026. Taking enrolments now
• The next Family Constellations Certification (FC) course is taking place online on 16 March-5 June 2026 Taking enrolments now
• The Triple Mastery Certification Rapid Core Healing(RCH) is starting on 05 January 2026 with massive discounts
• All trainings include RCH Practical Trauma Informed Treatment for personal and generational trauma recovery
• I am available for personal online session from 12 January 2026
• All details are on my new Rapid Core Healing site http://yildizsethi.com

You may read more about his in my book Rapid Core Healing for Personal and Systemic Solutions and Let’s Take the Crap Out of Psychotherapy to find out why a new way of working with the mind is necessary if we are to provide the best possible up to date services for ordinary men and women in the twenty first century.