Loving Yourself. What does this mean?
It has come to my attention that many people in the academic and public sphere do not understand what this is.Many people come from cultures, religions or belief systems that hold beliefs that to love yourself, must involve puffing yourself up. Feeding your inflated ego. Praising yourself, feeling you can do no wrong, must be the best, brightest and the most important. This is so far from what I and many other personal development and a spiritual growth-experts mean, with this idea of coming to love yourself.
If you are consciously on a growth or spiritual path, you will find that your triggers, involuntary beliefs, feelings and behaviours, frequently hold you back from being the person you would like to be. Many of us experience feelings of ‘not good enough,’ ‘feeling deeply flawed,’ ‘unloved and unlovable’, ‘not seen or heard,’ ‘guilt or shame’ and ‘disconnected or excluded’
These kinds of feelings run our lives, our choices, reactions, relationships, career and wellness and are highly damaging to us personally and our relationships and careers. Unfortunately, this results in unconsciously creating situations to uphold these negative beliefs.
I have found that if we can resolve or transform our negative beliefs, emotional triggers and traumas, we may finally come to a place of accepting ourselves. Accepting that we are part of the human condition. Perfectly imperfect, just like everyone else. We all struggle with the same dilemmas and primarily thrive when we feel connected and loved. This is a giant leap in growth and comes with an ability to observe or even laugh at and develop compassion for ourselves. which must spill out to those around us, with no judgement, in seeing the other as a mirror of ourselves. This is acceptance and can mellow into self love, that starts from within, and radiates out into our world.
This is the spiritual path of transformation
‘May the God or Goddess in me see the God or Goddess in you’.