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How our systems affect our potential

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How our systems effect our potential
What holds you back from going after and getting what you want in life?

Notice it usually has little or nothing to do with what you’re capable of.

More often, it’s your story about what you can and can’t do, are ready for or deserve that holds you back. But, affirmations, trying harder or telling yourself to fake it ‘til you make it doesn’t seem to make much difference. Why is that?

Consider that the thought patterns in your mind are at the heart of the issues. I’m not referring to the conscious chatter. That just scratches the surface.

Our experience of life and potential for growth and change is affected by three interrelated factors: our conscious thoughts, unconscious dialogue and what we inherit. All of these direct our actions consistent with the perceptions they shape. But, where do they come from?

Most of us realise that our conscious and unconscious thoughts come from our history, experiences, decisions and current state. But, few of us explore the inherited aspects of our habits and patterns as they are deeply unconscious and yet powerful.

Sam came to a business constellation session frustrated with the glass ceiling she was experiencing in getting recognition for her business. She was confident and knew she was ready for a promotion, but somehow couldn’t break through to the next level.

In many respects she had a good work environment and she had learned how to be assertive and yet she felt unable to take the next step in her career.

In her business constellation session, Sam became aware of how much her family influenced her perceptions and behaviours. She came from a farming family and was the first to work in a non-farming style business.

Starting with her work relationships, the constellation showed a pattern that cam from her relationship with her father and the women of her family.

While loving and respectful, there was an underlying, unspoken paradigm about a woman’s role in the family business. For Sam to seek a promotion would be to break with family tradition and disrupt that paradigm. Sam had a deep connection and loyalty to her family that that kept her bound to old traditional paradigms.

Once her dilemma became apparent she was able to thank them for what they had provided in giving her the opportunity to expand her horizons and ask for their good wishes in what she was doing.

This provided Sam with the confidence she needed to take her freedom as a woman and as a daughter of farming folk in the business world to be successful.

She naturally began to view her work and role in a much more empowering light and started to put in place the elements she needed to move forward in her career.

Margarite

The sessions with Yildiz have been profound and yet so gentle

Margarite

Pat Quinn

I am now 75 and until four years ago I struggled with excessive weight all my life.  I was always on a diet, I would lose weight then put it on again.  I decided to participate in a Family Constellation Workshop focusing on my life long issue of weight gain.   That workshop was a few years ago and I am pleased to say that I have taken off 41 kilograms and maintained that loss up till now.  All pain in my body has gone, I have lots of energy and at 75, feel like I am 50.   I believe that the constellation work was a great support in that process.

Pat Quinn

John

‘Being over looked for promotion had become a pattern that I was finding really frustrating. It was fascinating to discover how this pattern was a repeat of my situation in my family. I am now feeling so much more confident and am looking at my options in a different way. Many thanks.’

John

Julie

Love truly is the basis of this wonderful process. Family Constellations was an intense experience and it was a revelation watching, and being part of, the constellations of others.

Julie

Jo

I have been to several international trainings and this was by far the best in terms of explanations and experiential learning. I strongly recommend it

Jo

Mandy

Yildiz is a grounded and skilled facilitator guiding the Constellations with wisdom, sensitivity and clear boundaries creating a sense of safety that enables deep processing to unfold. I found it to be a profound experience touching into deep & lifelong soul pain.

Mandy
Psychologist

Alex

This was a most enjoyable and heart warming training. The group were so supportive and the teaching really clear. Many thanks.

Alex

Anthony

I felt like a lot of deep seated things shifted. I strongly recommend anyone who is struggling with a difficult personal situation to have their constellation done. It is relatively little time and money in exchange for huge potential rewards.

Anthony

Jane

My ability to have relations has been seriously impaired since my sexual abuse. I can’t believe that just a few sessions of EMI and Rapid Core Healing I am so relaxed and optimistic about finding a more sustaining relationship. I leave with alight heart.

Jane

I have just completed my second Family Constellation with Yildiz and I found it to be a profound experience touching into deep & lifelong soul pain. It feels like a huge relief of something releasing and opening into possibility lifting very old sadness.