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Yildiz Sethi

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How our systems affect our potential

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How our systems effect our potential
What holds you back from going after and getting what you want in life?

Notice it usually has little or nothing to do with what you’re capable of.

More often, it’s your story about what you can and can’t do, are ready for or deserve that holds you back. But, affirmations, trying harder or telling yourself to fake it ‘til you make it doesn’t seem to make much difference. Why is that?

Consider that the thought patterns in your mind are at the heart of the issues. I’m not referring to the conscious chatter. That just scratches the surface.

Our experience of life and potential for growth and change is affected by three interrelated factors: our conscious thoughts, unconscious dialogue and what we inherit. All of these direct our actions consistent with the perceptions they shape. But, where do they come from?

Most of us realise that our conscious and unconscious thoughts come from our history, experiences, decisions and current state. But, few of us explore the inherited aspects of our habits and patterns as they are deeply unconscious and yet powerful.

Sam came to a business constellation session frustrated with the glass ceiling she was experiencing in getting recognition for her business. She was confident and knew she was ready for a promotion, but somehow couldn’t break through to the next level.

In many respects she had a good work environment and she had learned how to be assertive and yet she felt unable to take the next step in her career.

In her business constellation session, Sam became aware of how much her family influenced her perceptions and behaviours. She came from a farming family and was the first to work in a non-farming style business.

Starting with her work relationships, the constellation showed a pattern that cam from her relationship with her father and the women of her family.

While loving and respectful, there was an underlying, unspoken paradigm about a woman’s role in the family business. For Sam to seek a promotion would be to break with family tradition and disrupt that paradigm. Sam had a deep connection and loyalty to her family that that kept her bound to old traditional paradigms.

Once her dilemma became apparent she was able to thank them for what they had provided in giving her the opportunity to expand her horizons and ask for their good wishes in what she was doing.

This provided Sam with the confidence she needed to take her freedom as a woman and as a daughter of farming folk in the business world to be successful.

She naturally began to view her work and role in a much more empowering light and started to put in place the elements she needed to move forward in her career.

Susan Bowes

By the end of the session, I felt an incredible weight lifted from my shoulders and didn’t feel the guilt was from me.  I felt absolutely amazing and have told many others about the effect your session had on me.

Susan Bowes

Jo

I have been to several international trainings and this was by far the best in terms of explanations and experiential learning. I strongly recommend it

Jo

Steve

My Family Constellations experience was truly life-changing. I was so surprised that such a gentle technique could create such wonderful changes throughout my thoughts and feelings. Amazingly, I am also experiencing the healing of a disease I have been suffering from for several years. All the symptoms are disappearing, and I have completely stopped taking anti-inflammatory medication. I have become very enthusiastic about getting out more, and living a full, pain-free life!

Steve

I have just completed my second Family Constellation with Yildiz and I found it to be a profound experience touching into deep & lifelong soul pain. It feels like a huge relief of something releasing and opening into possibility lifting very old sadness.

David

‘As a manager I was ready for a new way of connecting with my team and creating a new and motivated culture that is both respectful and co operative. The Business Constellation helped me see how it was possible to improve team spirit and performance.’

David

Greg

This was truly a great training in so many respects. It really clarified and refined my approach to helping people and I was able to take it straight into my practice. I highly recommend it to anyone who is looking for a fresh approach.

Greg

Alex

This was a most enjoyable and heart warming training. The group were so supportive and the teaching really clear. Many thanks.

Alex

Julie

Love truly is the basis of this wonderful process. Family Constellations was an intense experience and it was a revelation watching, and being part of, the constellations of others.

Julie

Jana

Yildiz's is subtle but very strong facilitator and I would trust any story to be explored under her guidance in a safe and supported way. If you're ready for deep work, you're in the right place with her.

Jana

Tom

There has always been something niggling at me deep inside, but I could never get to it. I can’t believe how free I am now. A great relief.

Tom