How fear stops you achieving your goals

Personal development and coaching have helped us realize that we are largely in control of our destiny.There is no doubt that In order to go anywhere, it is important to know where we’re heading. Aware people know that to be successful they need to be in touch with their purpose with a passion and also have adequate knowledge, skills and experience in their chosen field.

If we can maintain100% of our psychic and emotional focus on our goals, it is very likely that we will be successful sooner or later. However, if fear is present, this can become the invisible block that sabotages us at every turn. No amount of talking-it-through, motivational seminars or coaching may be enough to free us from it.

“A man is made by his beliefs, as he believes so he is” Bhagavad-Gita

The idea that we create our reality from our inner world is an ancient one that has been revived by the Law of attraction and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (2006) and developed much further in Be Rich AND Spiritual (2014). From these we are told that we create our reality from our thoughts, visions and feelings. The theory is that as long as we can maintain a steady, clear, focus, it should be possible to create our dreams. This has been the basis of personal development now.

So what gets in the way?

To achieve goals you need to be following your passion and have a clear vision and feeling for what you are creating, but if this is confused or diluted with fear, the resultant energy or focus is dispersed and may oppose the goal.

Our mind consists of conscious and unconscious elements with the conscious mind being16-20% and the unconscious component consisting of approximately 80%. In reality most of us can sort out our conscious feelings and thoughts through reflection and discussion. However most of our fears and hidden beliefs are located in the unconscious mind or trapped in the body itself (as kinesiologists may attest to).

While it is possible to reason or talk your way through irrational beliefs, fear is an emotion and emotions cannot be resolved by reason alone. Fear often has no rational basis and often persists in having a life of its own, in raising its head through predictable or unpredictable trigger-points that may also emerge as anxiety or panic attack. It may have its roots in experiences of failure or trauma from the past, or feelings of unworthiness from childhood.

How can you achieve a wonderful goal if at your core you don’t believe that you are worthy of it?

In such cases there are a least two parts of you engaged in a ‘tug o war’ in your psyche. The unworthy part may be experienced as fear at being pushed outside its comfort zone, especially as you get closer to success, that transforms itself into a powerful block or sabotage.

In addition to subconscious fears, the study of Epigenetics What Is Epigenetics by Garvan Institute of Medical Research (sited July 2015) demonstrates that DNA may be turned on or off by environmental and emotional factors. We inherit a host of feelings and patterns from our ancestors, so that for many, this may include such things as fear, trauma and poverty consciousness, as well as many good qualities like resilience and love.

How to rid your life of the fear that inhibits.

The medical model of psychology adopts the view that fear can be managed by CBT (Cognitive behavioral Therapy) and medication. This may indeed help, however ‘managing’ is just that; it is not a complete resolution.

Talk therapies or methods that attempt to reason with fear, generally don’t work for many on a deeper level, while methods that deal with the roots of the fear in the unconscious mind, such as Clinical hypnotherapy (with a competent practitioner) is likely to be much more effective. However, if the root of the fear is located in the systemic consciousness coming from ancestors, the deeper processes of systemic Family or Business Constellations are more effective. Systemic processes are particularly effective if the root of the fear is inherited from ancestral trauma, tragedies, exclusions or anything that caused shame or loss of dignity in the family system. Systemic Family or Business Constellations is a solution-focused, experiential process that is powerful and relatively brief, effective process that may stand-alone or be part of a longer personal development process. It is very possible to eliminate the fear that blocks your success.

Reference Garvan Institute of Medical Research 2010. Sited July 2015

Yildiz Sethi is a personal development and relationship expert. She provides consultations and training in Vedic astrology and Family Constellations and tailored programs to resolve blocks to success and wellbeing. She has been holding workshops and training in Sydney and Brisbane for over a decade. She is the author of two number 1 best seller books (Amazon) Stardust on the Spiritual Path and Be Rich AND Spiritual. You may reach her on or

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